The Enneagram is a model of personality in which there are nine personality types, related to each other according to the geometry of the Enneagram figure (pictured right).
The Enneagram is not a model used in psychological research, but is widely promoted in various forms by various persons and organizations for self-help, business management, and spiritual development. The first use of the Enneagram was in the teachings of Oscar Ichazo on spiritual development in the 1950s. In 1980s and 1990s a string of popular self-help books were published that centred on the Enneagram. The OEPS was developed by this website as an open source assessment to match takers to the most common conceptions of the nine types. ( https://openpsychometrics.org/tests/OEPS/ )
Observers have a need for knowledge and are introverted, curious, analytical, and insightful.
How to Get Along with Me
- Be independent, not clingy.
- Speak in a straightforward and brief manner.
- I need time alone to process my feelings and thoughts.
- Remember that If I seem aloof, distant, or arrogant, it may be that I am feeling uncomfortable.
- Make me feel welcome, but not too intensely, or I might doubt your sincerity.
- If I become irritated when I have to repeat things, it may be because it was such an effort to get my thoughts out in the first place.
- don’t come on like a bulldozer.
- Help me to avoid my pet peeves: big parties, other people’s loud music, overdone emotions, and intrusions on my privacy.
What I Like About Being a Five
- standing back and viewing life objectively
- coming to a thorough understanding; perceiving causes and effects
- my sense of integrity: doing what I think is right and not being influenced by social pressure
- not being caught up in material possessions and status
- being calm in a crisis
What’s Hard About Being a Five
- being slow to put my knowledge and insights out in the world
- feeling bad when I act defensive or like a know-it-all
- being pressured to be with people when I don’t want to be
- watching others with better social skills, but less intelligence or technical skill, do better professionally
Fives as Children Often
- spend a lot of time alone reading, making collections, and so on
- have a few special friends rather than many
- are very bright and curious and do well in school
- have independent minds and often question their parents and teachers
- watch events from a detached point of view, gathering information
- assume a poker face in order not to look afraid
- are sensitive; avoid interpersonal conflict
- feel intruded upon and controlled and/or ignored and neglected
Fives as Parents
- are often kind, perceptive, and devoted
- are sometimes authoritarian and demanding
- may expect more intellectual achievement than is developmentally appropriate
- may be intolerant of their children expressing strong emotions