The Enneagram is a model of personality in which there are nine personality types, related to each other according to the geometry of the Enneagram figure (pictured right).
The Enneagram is not a model used in psychological research, but is widely promoted in various forms by various persons and organizations for self-help, business management, and spiritual development. The first use of the Enneagram was in the teachings of Oscar Ichazo on spiritual development in the 1950s. In 1980s and 1990s a string of popular self-help books were published that centred on the Enneagram. The OEPS was developed by this website as an open source assessment to match takers to the most common conceptions of the nine types. ( https://openpsychometrics.org/tests/OEPS/ )
Helpers are warm, concerned, nurturing, and sensitive to other people’s needs.
How to Get Along with Me
- Tell me that you appreciate me. Be specific.
- Share fun times with me.
- Take an interest in my problems, though I will probably try to focus on yours.
- Let me know that I am important and special to you.
- Be gentle if you decide to criticize me.
- Reassure me that I am intersting to you.
- Reassure me often that you love me.
- Tell me I’m attractive and that you’re glad to be seen with me.
What I Like About Being a Two
- being able to relate easily to people and to make friends
- knowing what people need and being able to make their lives better
- being generous, caring, and warm
- being sensitive to and perceptive about others’ feelings
- being enthusiastic and fun-loving, and having a good sense of humor
What’s Hard About Being a Two
- not being able to say no
- having low self-esteem
- feeling drained from overdoing for others
- not doing things I really like to do for myself for fear of being selfish
- criticizing myself for not feeling as loving as I think I should
- being upset that others don’t tune in to me as much as I tume in to them
- working so hard to be tactful and considerate that I suppress my real feelings
Twos as Children Often
- are very sensitive to disapproval and criticism
- try hard to please their parents by being helpful and understanding
- are outwardly compliant
- are popular or try to be popular with other children
- act coy, precocious, or dramatic in order to get attention
- are clowns and jokers (the more extroverted Twos), or quiet and shy (the more introverted Twos)
Twos as Parents
- are good listeners, love their children unconditionally, and are warm and encouraging (or suffer guilt if they aren’t)
- are often playful with their children
- wonder: “Am I doing it right?” “Am I giving enough?” “Have I caused irreparable damage?”
- can become fiercely protective