The Enneagram is a model of personality in which there are nine personality types, related to each other according to the geometry of the Enneagram figure (pictured right).
The Enneagram is not a model used in psychological research, but is widely promoted in various forms by various persons and organizations for self-help, business management, and spiritual development. The first use of the Enneagram was in the teachings of Oscar Ichazo on spiritual development in the 1950s. In 1980s and 1990s a string of popular self-help books were published that centred on the Enneagram. The OEPS was developed by this website as an open source assessment to match takers to the most common conceptions of the nine types. ( https://openpsychometrics.org/tests/OEPS/ )
Asserters are direct, self-reliant, self-confident, and protective.
How to Get Along with Me
- Stand up for yourself… and me.
- Be confident, strong, and direct.
- Don’t gossip about me or betray my trust.
- Be vulnerable and share your feelings. See and acknowledge my tender, vulnerable side.
- Give me space to be alone.
- Acknowledge the contributions I make, but don’t flatter me.
- I often speak in an assertive way. Don’t automatically assume it’s a personal attack.
- When I scream, curse, and stomp around, try to remember that’s just the way I am.
What I Like About Being a Eight
- being independent and self-reliant
- being able to take charge and meet challenges head on
- being courageous, straightforward, and honest
- getting all the enjoyment I can out of life
- supporting, empowering, and protecting those close to me
- upholding just causes
What’s Hard About Being a Eight
- overwhelming people with my bluntness; scaring them away when I don’t intend to
- being restless and impatient with others’ incompetence
- sticking my neck out for people and receiving no appreciation for it
- never forgetting injuries or injustices
- putting too much pressure on myself
- getting high blood pressure when people don’t obey the rules or when things don’t go right
Eights as Children Often
- are independent; have an inner strength and a fighting spirit
- are sometimes loners
- seize control so they won’t be controlled
- fugure out others’ weaknesses
- attack verbally or physically when provoked
- take charge in the family because they perceive themselves as the strongest, or grow up in difficult or abusive surroundings
Eights as Parents
- are often loyal, caring, involved, and devoted
- are sometimes overprotective
- can be demanding, controlling, and rigid